Today we are talking about mastering your money mindset. We are going to talk about your money story, and identifying your limiting beliefs that are holding you back, and I’ll share a wealth consciousness practice that you can do right now to start changing your money story, and get into alignment with a money story that serves you, and your family, and the community around you.
I have the privilege of talking with many women each week, and so often the biggest block they are facing in their life is a lack of money. It is this lack of money that is reducing their choices in life, keeping them stuck in jobs they don’t like, creating pressure in relationships, impacting their health, and overall enjoyment in life.
I’ve been there! Around 5 or 6 years ago, I was feeling the pinch from the public sector having pay freezes for what felt like for ever. I felt like I was working harder, and actually getting poorer, because the cost of living was increasing, my children were getting older and their costs were increasing, and my pay was staying the same. After a while of pressure and increasing debt, I decided to take action, take control and give myself a payrise. That’s when I started my health and wellness franchise and wellness coaching and built that along side my full time job.
I had started investing in coaching and mentoring, and really understanding that I could control what I thought, and therefore what I created in my life.
Many of us, at some point , struggle with feeling unsuccessful, with feeling unfulfilled in our work and insecure in our finances.
It is so true that financial abundance goes hand in hand with personal fulfillment, but we’re never been taught how to achieve financial abundance doing what we love.
Ever felt like that? Like achieving financial abundance doing work that fulfills you is something that only a select few other people get to experience?
I know so many of you have tried working harder and longer. You’ve changed jobs, even careers, but still, financial security seems out of reach. Even success, when it does come, isn’t always fulfilling.
The whole process is exhausting! Enough now! Let’s stop this cycle.
The cycle continues until finally, we end up feeling resigned to dreams so small, they barely sustain us. I find it so interesting that when I first speak to people and invite them to dream big, often their first dream is actually just a “lets get by without it being exhausted” dream. It’s not really the one that they would have desired for themselves as a little girl. People think its not possible.
When I ask clients about why they don’t make as much money as they want, I hear them say things like:
I’m just no good with money.
I’ve reached the limit of my earning potential.
I’m doing great, it would be greedy to want more.
I should be earning more, but Im afraid it would cost too much ( in terms of health or relationships)
My partner takes care of our money.
I’m just afraid to even look at my finances.
Money just isn’t that important to me.
I have a good life, I should just be happy with that.
I’m smart, driven, but I just can’t seem to break through to the next level.
It doesn’t actually matter why you believe you don’t earn enough, because whatever you come up with isn’t true, and doesn’t have to be that way. Obviously we pick up our beliefs from our parents relationship with money when we were children.
What if that could all be in the past? What if, starting right now, you could begin following an entirely new path doing work you love that fully supports you, your life, and your future?
,Now you can get on a new path, a path that, if you continue to follow it, will change your entire experience around work, money, personal fulfilment, and much more.
So lets talk about your money story from your parents.
What was your parents relationship to money and their beliefs? I want you to explore the relationship your parents had to money.
What things did they used to say to you.
What things they didn’t say but you learned from their behaviour.
What things do you remember happening to them whilst you were a child?
Do this for your Father.
Do this for your Mother.
For example, I grew up in a strong Christian household, my Mother used to say things like “ Money is the root of all evil” and “ Rich people are greedy” and I also discovered that being told the story of Jesus throwing out the merchants from the temple for selling their wares there was sin and what I understood as a child from that was “making money was sin”, this had an impact on my belief around money. So what do you think this did to my mindset growing up? How do you think this has played out in my adult life?
This is why it is important to spend some time on reflection here. Dig deep.
Who else was important in your life growing up? What was their money story? I want you to do this for them to. As you will begin to unpick the thoughts and beliefs you took on as a child around money.
What is the story you are telling yourself now?
What do you think to yourself?
What is your excuse you are using to keep yourself stuck where you are now?
It could be – Right now I’m in debt, I don’t own a car, I have to work hard to make ends meet.
Now we are beginning to peel back the onion layers to find the stories and beliefs you’ve been carrying. As adults who are in control of our own lives, we don’t have to carry these stories anymore. We can release them. So let’s build on this.
Funny thing is, while the results people achieve with the energy work I do are often amazing and life-changing, most people are surprised by how natural and stressfree the process feels.
So… are you ready? Are you ready to dramatically improve your financial success and personal fulfillment?
If you’ve been through tough times, or if you’re currently going through tough times, you know exactly what I mean.
Financial stress adds so much pressure to our everyday lives, clouding our ability to feel free and fulfilled, healthy and energized.
I want you to stop to think about your finances right now, how do you feel they limit you? Make a note in your journal.
How have your finances affected your happiness, your sense of well-being and personal fulfillment?
How have they impacted your relationships?
Personally speaking, it wasn’t until I took a look at what was going on internally that I realized why I had been stuck for so long.
When I did that, I discovered that my beliefs – around money, work, myself, rich people, what it would take to be successful, and much more – were dictating my life.
For the first time, I understood how much my own beliefs were limiting the amount of financial success and personal fulfillment I could experience.
That realization was a huge turning point for me.
It was the moment when I began to understand that I’d only be able to change my life once I’d changed my beliefs.
As important as my realization was, that alone never could have transformed my life. You need to transform your energy and mindset. I use the Energy Alignment Method for this.
Because the truth is, even when you know your limiting beliefs are standing in your way, transforming them isn’t always just about force-feeding yourself positive beliefs.
I’m a huge believer in positive thinking, but just thinking positive thoughts often isn’t sufficient to overwrite limiting beliefs in a deep and lasting way.
The fact is, beliefs around money, success and happiness are so deeply ingrained that they look and feel like “the truth.” They’re often connected to deep emotions, and sometimes to old, buried memories as well.
Until we’re able to access these deeper root(s) of our beliefs, transforming them can feel like pushing a boulder up a hill. I like fast results !
So in order for positive beliefs to support you in living the abundant and fulfilling life you deserve, you have to believe them, not just mentally, but emotionally as well on a subconscious level.
One of the fastest and most powerful ways to access the deeper roots of your beliefs— information that’s often stored in the subconscious mind—is through the body.
That’s what makes energy techniques so powerful. They don’t just stuff new positive beliefs down your throat, hoping that your subconscious will follow suit.
Instead, the techniques I do guide you toward a process of transformation that’s both deeper and faster.
So that you release old limiting beliefs and become mentally and emotionally invested in new and more empowering beliefs. Once that happens, your entire life begins to transform.
We want your new, empowering beliefs as deeply ingrained as your old ones once were, so your experience around work, money, success and fulfillment naturally begin to support the abundant and fulfilling life you deserve.
The first step in this process of transforming your limiting beliefs is identifying them. So that is what we are going to do here.
Even if you think you already know what they are, I’ve got a list of the most common beliefs. That you can download in my Facebook group the Art of Alignment- Living the Life You Want. And I urge you to take the time to go through this list of disempowering beliefs one at a time, and be honest with yourself about how true each belief feels.
And I want to stress the word feels because that’s where you get a true measurement.
You might have a conscious “positive thinking” belief of, “I’m a good salesman/woman” but when you stop and read that statement aloud and feel it in your body, you might suddenly feel the truth of that subconsciously as you think something like, “No I’m not. I never get good results.” That gut feeling that comes up is the true measurement of our beliefs.
As you go through this process, make sure to read each statement aloud and FEEL in your body how true each statement feels to you.
After you’ve gone through this process of identifying your limiting beliefs, then you can release the belief, through energy work, this could be Tapping, Access Consciouness or the Energy Alignment Method, and then align yourself, with feeling to the positive belief.
Here is a few to get you started!
Making More Money Means Working Longer Hours.
I’ve never been lucky like that.
I’m too busy trying to break even.
Money stresses me out.
Money is dirty.
I don’t deserve a lot of money.
Rich people are fake.
I don’t need a lot of money.
If I make more money my friends or family won’t like me.
Use a journal to write what comes up for you.
Once you’ve identified a whole bunch of limiting beliefs that are not serving you. Do the energy work to shift them and align with positive beliefs.
And to really begin to transform your mindset around this stuff, I want you to do a wealth consciousness practice every day. It is crucial. Throw everything you’ve got at this stuff! And you need to be consistent with your practice. Do it daily.
One of my favourites to do, which I learnt from Denise Duffield Thomas, Get Rich Lucky Bitch Author.
Wealth Consciousness Practice
Every day write down a list of all the money that comes into your life. Track every penny, whether it is from salary, gifts, money in the street, bonuses, or an inheritance. Big or Small, track it every day, and feel good and grateful about it.
By paying close attention to all those extra little bits and pieces of money that comes your way, you will start to activate the law of attraction positively. Like attracts like – so the more money you realise you have, the more money will start flowing to you.
This takes you out of focusing on the lack of money in your life, where you send a signal out to the universe of lack and so you attract more of the same.
Also track everything else of value that comes into your life that might not be money. It could be gifts, savings, discounts, things you receive for free. By noting these you might actually realise you get more free stuff than money, so you might need to switch your focus to manifest more money.
Make a commitment to track your money every day for a least a month- because what gets measured gets improved. I know when I do this – it works, I get excited and grateful about what is coming to me.
The first time I did this, I got an extra £800 from an unexpected source. I couldn’t quite believe my eyes.
So, 30 days, track track track! You can make your own tracker, or if you are in the Facebook group I can send it to you.
This is about knowing how much money you are manifesting so you can attract some more.
This is such a big topic, and a game changer for people. We do lots of this in my programmes, as mastering your money mindset is key.
Do come and join the conversation in our Facebook group – The Art of Alignment- Living the Life You Want